Lifetime Dogs

Michael Baugh CPDT-KA, CDBC

I hear them all the time, stories about that one dog that changed a person’s life. Sometimes the dog is right there. More often than not the dog is already gone, dead, maybe a year, maybe decades ago. But one thing is always the same. The dog in the story is or was the dog. And the person I’m listening to is moved to speak of magic and mystery.

Folks who know dogs well call them “Lifetime Dogs.” There won’t be another one like her, they’ll say. And then the stories come. She was the dog who saw me though my divorce, or the death of my mother, or the time I was laid off. When everyone else turned their back on me, she was the dog who stood by my side. When she looked at me I just knew she understood. She was the best dog I ever had and I still miss her.

I understand. I have a Lifetime Dog. She inspired my first dog training business. She’s traveled the country with me and moved city to city. She’s seen me through loss and disappointment. She’s made me smile and laugh, just about daily. She’s one of my best friends. And though I prattle at her all the time she has never spoken a word to me. Her loyalty is silent and steady. Her name is Juno and I could tell you stories about our life together for days. And I find I want to tell those stories even more these days because Juno is near the end of her life.

So, what is it about her and all these other dogs? How do they pull us through life’s struggles? How do they charm and change our lives so? Or are we asking the right questions?

My belief in the true nature of dogs leads me back to observation. I’ve seen dogs do amazing things: run weave poles at top speed, perform in obedience competition with precision, take down criminals with stealth and strength, and find survivors in rubble when all hope was lost. But the new work of dogs as author Jon Katz calls it, is much harder to see. I’ve never seen a dog talk anyone through divorce or death. I’ve never really seen a dog start a business or find someone a job. In truth, I’ve never seen a dog do anything other than be a dog, just be herself.

The sad truth is I see humans being less than their greatest selves all the time. We struggle and persevere and rarely give ourselves the credit. When we suffer and mourn we are the ones who emerge on the other side standing strong and alive and better than before. We raise families and build lives. And on our best days we embrace the glory of our own lives with laughter and joy. That’s us. That’s you. And yes, if we are lucky we do it with a dog by our side.

And what about these dogs? What about Juno in the waning days of our life together? Is she any less special for having done nothing at all? Is she no longer a “Lifetime Dog” for having been just an ordinary dog? Or maybe ordinary is enough. Maybe her magic is just simply in her being and not at all in her doing. And perhaps the best counselor or friend really is the one who stays by your side without a word while you struggle and heal. And maybe she’s the one who steps aside while you grow and create and emerge anew. She’s always there to play and watch you laugh. And that’s enough. She’s the clear simple reflection of your greatest self. Can’t you see how wonderful you are in her eyes?

Weekends at BARC

Micahel Baugh CPDT-KA, CDBC

Animal shelters can be hard places for dogs and for people too. Most of us choose not to go. They are places of heartbreak. We don’t want to see them. The faces tell stories of life on the street or of a person who died and left them alone or of a family who just didn’t care enough. We don’t go because then we will know. How many came in this month? How few will leave? What happened to the rest? If we pass the cage they will wiggle with excitement, maybe bark. Take me out of here. Take me away. Take me anywhere, anywhere but here.

City kennels are the worst. They are hidden down narrow streets near places we wouldn’t go anyway. It’s true in any American city, not just here. They are hard places. And there’s always controversy. Sadness pits people against each other. The work is difficult and low-paying. The funding runs low and the buildings run down. It’s true in Cleveland. It’s true in San Francisco. It’s true in Houston. We know they exist. But we choose not to go.

Most of us. Others, it turns out, choose differently. Every Saturday Morning they drive the narrow road in North Houston to the Houston Bureau of Animal Regulation and Care (BARC). One becomes two becomes 5 becomes 15 or more. They wear old clothes and good attitudes. They bring a cooler of water and soft drinks and lots of patience. Then, after some warm “hello’s” and a short “how was your your week,” they get to work.

“Weekends at BARC” started in January 2009 when the founders, James Oxford and Lance Marshall, visited BARC for the first time. The mission: give every dog (there are dozens) a chance to get out, get some fresh air and maybe get a little quiet time with a human being. Some even get a cool bath just for good measure. It’s hard work and sometimes messy work. But it’s important work too. The positive interaction with people, coupled with good physical and mental exercise helps stave off behavioral deterioration. Shelters are hard places. They can wear dogs thin quickly.

I worry about our relationships with dogs. Some we love to the point of insanity. Others we forget about at places where no one wants to go. How many this month? What happens to them? The truth is hard to face full on. But the folks who come to BARC on these hot Saturdays, these muggy or rainy Saturdays, know the truth. They know it and the come anyway. The dog they visit today may not be here next week. Not adopted. Just gone. There aren’t enough adopting families. And maybe this weekend at BARC a visit will have to be enough.

It’s hard to think about. And yes, there is an undertone of sadness here, even on Saturdays. But there is also magic. Every week this place we only hear about on the news becomes the place to be. Dogs lead people and people lead dogs to and fro. Dogs and people play in outdoor runs. They bark we clap and cheer. There are cool drinks and cool baths, warm hello’s, smiles and big faced tongue-hanging-out doggie grins. BARC comes alive and the lives here, human and canine, are better for it.

Here’s how it all comes together. The cages are marked with clothespins. If there’s a pin on the bars, that dog has been out. No pin? That one’s next in line. Every dog gets one-on-one time. Every dog. I pin the high bar of the cage five from the end and introduce myself to a big brindle pit mix. He slips easily into his collar and we head out for our walk. I give him a treat every time he looks up at me and we hit it off right away. (I love a dog with good eye contact.) He’s as sweet as my own dog but I have to be honest with him, you look terribly frightening. He stares up at me with a stupid face and a gentle blink to his eye. I name him “Brick.” We all deserve a name don’t we buddy?

They are such good people, these folks who find their way and choose to come every weekend to BARC. I walk Brick and smile at his big-faced grins. But I can’t help but marvel at these people, the one, the two, the 15, the 400 who now count themselves part of this group. Some have come once. Some never miss a Saturday. Either way they all made the choice and did the work. I watch a young woman running circles around the play area with a big white dog on her heels. She’s in the moment, un-tethered and free from whatever worries held her back before she got here. She could be anyone. But for that one moment she is everyone to that dog. She is his and he hers. It’s the simple commitment we share with dogs when we are at our best: I’ll pass the hours with you sweet friend. You’d do the same for me.

I put Brick back in his kennel and he looks back at me with calm resolve. He’s done this for many more weeks than I have. Maybe I’ll see him again. But more than anything I hope he finds his way home. Not gone. Adopted. Good boy. You’re a very good boy.

Dog-less

Michael Baugh CPDT-KA, CDBC

I promised myself I’d never buy a dog again and I intend to keep that promise. I wonder if you’ll join me in that commitment. There are lots good reasons that have nothing at all to do with full-bred dogs. They don’t have anything to do with money either.

I bought a golden retriever 11 and a half years ago. Juno died last week. And she was probably the best dog I will ever have. The cancer that eventually took her most certainly had a genetic cause. Too many goldens die from the same disease to deny that. But genetics isn’t the problem either. I’d have another golden. I just wouldn’t buy one.

Juno was my only dog. Once she got into her senior years I promised her I wouldn’t trouble her with a puppy and I kept that promise. Now that she’s gone I find myself dog-less. It’s an odd state. The house echoes with her absence. I sometimes think I see her from the corner of my eye. But it’s just the cat who seems equally perplexed. It’s a quiet time for tears and old pictures. But on the edge of things there’s the hint of another dog, the next dog, the one who will never take Juno’s place in my heart, but may someday take the one at the foot of our bed. I don’t know her. But I promise I won’t buy her.

If you’re a dog person, people are always clamoring at your door to take in the dog with the sad story. If you’re a dog professional or even a dog writer, it’s twice again as bad. Juno had been gone less than 48 hours when I got the first email: two Labrador retrievers whose owner was moving away. Then it was a spaniel, a stray. And the clamoring in my head is just as bad. I admit, Tim and I went to the Houston SPCA this weekend to visit the dogs there. They were all good dogs and I can’t stop thinking about them. If I’d had a few dozen people with me we could have emptied the place. None of them are for sale.

I’d have paid anything for one more week with Juno (I did pay a lot in the final weeks and months). But at the end the price in pain was too high for her and nothing could stop it. We said goodbye on the cool wood floor where she loved to sleep. The vet carried her body to his car and she was gone. There’s no shame in telling you the sobbing cut me at the knees, sorrow drawn from the deep well of a happy life with a true friend.

Cancer took Juno from me and there was no choice in it. But so many other dogs live on without a home or a person in the world who cares. That wasn’t their choice either. It’s a strange thing. Some we love so much that even the thought of losing them catches in our throat. Others we cast aside without a thought. We offer them no love at all.

So in a few weeks or a few months one of those dogs will come home with me, one who was sent away and forgotton. She’ll soak up the love and attention someone else decided she didn’t deserve. And, yes, she may be a golden. I’ll suffer the risk of cancer again. And certainly there will be expenses: vet bills, food, supplies and even an adoption fee. That’s okay. It’s not about the money. It’s about a dog I don’t even know yet, one who may not even have a name.

I won’t buy her. But she’ll be mine just the same. And I’ll be hers. And no, my home won’t be her first. It will be her last. That’s a promise too.